I think a lot about why I coach. It takes up a ton of my time, I do not get paid, the hours are always inconvenient, and at most times you are being ask why you did what you did with 10 seconds left in the game. Well, despite all of those negatives there is one huge positive, I get the chance to change lives. Many coaches will tell you it is about winning, or it is about finding that one great athlete and watching him go on to greatness, or even about their personal legacy. For me it is none of those things, it is about changing the lives of young people in a way that counts. An example of this is a conversation I had with one of my players the other day while driving back from a basketball game. He said to me, “yeah coach I use to play for this select team and all the coach did was tear me down. If I did something good he said nothing, but if I messed up he yelled at me for what seemed like an hour. I felt like I could not do anything right. I play for this team because I feel like I belong and that you believe in me. You don’t yell at us, you just tell us to keep trying and get better each day. I am not nervous and I feel better about playing.” For me hearing this was like finding out I won the lottery! My goal has never been to turn this kid into an elite athlete, he may be one someday, but that is not my focus. My focus is to teach him about life through basketball. To teach him that winning is easy, but losing takes character and pride. When he is a man with a family, I want him to look back on his life and say I can make it through anything because I learned how to deal with loss and through that lesson I learned how to eventually win. In short, I am fine with not being the man leading all the time because I know someone has to stay busy pushing these young men up the mountain from behind.